Emails & Testimonials - to Filmmakers
Below are quotes from women taken from blog posts and emails in response to the making of Seeking Happily Ever After as well as to the trailer.
I checked out your website on 'Seeking Happily Ever After' and I am obsessed! I think it is the best idea and would totally agree that we all need to redefine what that really means! I wish I would have known you sooner, because I would have begged to help you on this in any way. I wish you all the best and I plan to spread the word as much as I can, seriously!
I feel this subject is SO important because it's not just about finding a man, it's about finding the right career, the right friends, the right balance in our lives as individuals without the thoughts and expectations from family and society.
Wow, I feel so passionate about it and am so excited for you. I wish you all the best.
Great documentary - when will it be done? I can’t wait to see what else they get into, hopefully Happily Ever After doesn’t just mean finding a guy and marrying him… I like the idea that it can be different for all of us - personally, I’d love to end up in Greece on one of those islands and learn to paint! Maybe I’ll have a league of Greek lovers! Great job girls!
This doc looks amazing. I can not even wait to see real looking women saying real sounding things! About time.
Timely topic - While it seems that all of Hollywood is getting married and having babies, there are a growing number of us single 30-something women who are CHOOSING to stay single and are thrilled about it!
I don’t know that it is only women who believe in happily ever after. I think men fall into that trap too - you have to get married before a certain age or something is wrong with you - why is he still a bachelor?
Way to go! Love the fact that Extra! picked up this gem of a project. Shows that they have impeccable taste and have their fingers on the pulse of what’s REALLY going on for young women today. However, I don’t know any women who look like the bikini models that they chose to feature. What’s up with that?
Can’t wait for this to come out! Hurrah for the Indy film makers giving us what we really want to see!
I only have one question: When is this doc coming out?? I have showed this clip to all of my friends and we are already planning a group outing the second it’s released! Hurry up, ladies!
I think it isn’t only women who feel pressure to get married. My married friends make me feel as guilty as my mom that I haven’t “settled” down yet. Why should I settle?
Hurray for women sticking up for women! Thank God someone realizes that there doesn’t have to be a stigma being single anymore.
Can’t wait to see this documentary. My mother has been bugging me for years to “just get married.” She doesn’t understand that I really like my life and if or when I decide to get married - it will be on my terms - not hers!
Awesome! This morning I was just thinking how relationships are so incredibly weird to me and I get bored in them very soon. So I have never really though that they are for me. I am happy being single, I have tons of freedom.
Yesterday a friend said, "you would be happy with a little girl." I replied," would you say that to a man before you said that to a women?" Probably not. I get really tired of people thinking a man or a child will complete me. I am complete and happy all on my own!
Hell yes! I'm over 40 and never married, it rocks. Screw the script society gives us, just live life. I'm not into going to fundraisers ( I hate crowds, esp. here in L.A.) but I'll send these women some money for sure!
I think this movie looks awesome. I also hope that she includes some lesbian/bi/queer women and their perspectives.
This looks awesome, i wish i could make it to the fundraiser.
This makes me so happy and I'm even an old married lady :)
I just hate the pressure I see on my friends to get married and have kids. Where's the pressure to explore yourself, your world and your society? Where's the pressure to get the masters degree or doctorate? Where's the pressure to live in news places and learn life's lessons in your 20's and 30's?
If I ever have a daughter you had better believe I will be pressuring her to be "the best version of herself" before she makes any lifelong commitments, especially to a life partner.
Thanks for plugging this very exciting documentary in the making! About a month ago, my friend Christina and I searched and searched for Web sites and blogs that celebrated living single, because we both love it so much. We couldn't find anything that didn't have an underlying pro-coupling message (like "yes, enjoy single life ... so you can become a better person for your future mate"), so we started a blog called Onely (http://onely.org) that celebrates everything we love about being single. We hope you'll check us out!
Slightly OT: as someone who reads a lot of folklore, I always shake my head at the social perception that "fairy tale = happy ending". I specifically avoided referring to my own wedding as a "fairy tale wedding", because to me that would have involved someone dying or being cursed.
Ahh, those are my Generation X sisters, even the more hardcore late X variety. I totally get it...we grew up as latchkey kids, lots of bad things happened during our childhood, we don't trust anyone and we don't care to commit. We couldn't care less about your institutions and we don't believe in fairy tales. We make our own happy endings. And you Gen Yers (our nieces and nephews) and your dumb Baby Boomer parents (our older sisters and brothers) don't get it, and that is just fine by us.
I do think it's very cool that people are trying to stand up for women who don't want traditional things, although my only caveat is not to diss those of us who did get married, and even (oh dear god!) changed our last names. I see a lot of anti-marriage stuff on here, and while I think it's great if you're happy and single, I also love my life being married, and I changed my last name because my parents were horrible and I wanted a new better family, with a new name to go with it. It doesn't make you weak or less independent, it's just a difference in how you find happiness.
I do identify with the people in the documentary, because I get all kinds of crap for saying I don't want kids. I hope their project goes well!
The one woman at the beginning saying she has an awesome single life with her yearly inter-continental vacation makes me wonder about the tone of this film - is it just interviewing moneyed single professionals about their single-dom? i'm curious to see if the subjects cross class lines.
I wonder about women with disabilities feeling pressure to find a partner to "take care" of them. My aunt has a heart condition, and when she got engaged there was a lot of relief going around, especially from my mom and my grandma, that she had someone to take care of her. My aunt ended up breaking off the engagement and she's building her own counseling practice. I think she definitely made the right decision, despite my mom's worries.
I'm still single and enjoying my "summer of single!" I do have a family wedding in a couple of weeks which normally I would dread having to go alone - this time is different however. I'm very much looking forward to it and to spending uninterrupted, quality time with family and enjoying the freedom that comes with being single. I do hope to meet someone fabulous soon, but until then, life is good! Thanks for making this film and best of luck in the coming months.
I just caught the blurb about your film on TV and jumped to your website right away. AMEN! I just turned 31, and subsequently left a man who had already designed the ring and was getting ready to pop the question. I wouldn't call it cold feet, rather, I refer to it as my best swing and miss
ever!
Am trying to get my extended family off my back and shut them up for once! I love my life, there is nothing missing because I am not married and I'm so excited to hear that no, I am not nuts for thinking so. :-)
I will admit to you (though lately i am an emotional wreck anyway) that this made me cry....i am so excited for you....this is going to be HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE.